ZODIAC BLOG POSTS — relationship

Aries

(March 21st to April 19th)

You survive your broken heart by re-remembering how much you enjoy your own company. 

You’ve never struggled to fall in love – it’s always been something very exciting and invigorating and non-intimidating to you. The hard part for you was always the moment when the relationship progressed from ‘thrilling and new’ to ‘steady and routine-like.’ Although this is a normal part of relationships, it’s still something you have a hard time with – you often start to miss your independence and autonomy. So, the way that you heal after a breakup is relearning how much joy you get from being by yourself. Even though you miss your partner a lot in the beginning, you’re able to heal by remembering how much you like to spend time exploring and trying new things on your own.

Taurus

(April 20th to May 21st)

You survive your broken heart by reviving a lot of your other relationships. 

One of your best qualities is your strong sense of love, warmth, and compassion for others. And while you are still a loyal friend and family member during your relationships, your attention does start to gravitate a lot more towards your partner. So when you’re in the middle of a bad breakup, you find a lot of strength and healing from rejuvenating some of your other relationships – taking a lengthy visit home, organizing happy hours and dinners with pals, taking vacations with your closest friends, staying in better touch with people you care about, etc. It doesn’t completely ‘fix’ you, but putting a lot of effort into your friendships and family relationships gives you a lot of replenishing energy on your tough days.

Gemini

(May 22nd to June 21st)

You survive your broken heart by finding joy in learning to be on your own again. 

One of your biggest struggles in relationships is your tendency to lean a little too much on your significant other when it comes to making big life decisions. You’re a bit of a waverer, in terms of your career and your life goals and where you see yourself in five or ten years. So the nice thing about being back on your own again is that you gain back a sense of self-sufficiency and focus, without losing your spirit or your lively temperament. Although it doesn’t fully soothe the sadness you feel, your blossoming sense of self-reliance is a welcome return that definitely softens the blow of your broken heart.

Cancer

(June 22nd to July 22nd)

You survive your broken heart by leaning on people you trust and asking for help to find closure. 

You have a tendency to cling on to things even after they are over, and learning how to ‘let go’ is a task that you are always trying to improve on. But you also have a very open and loving heart, and you always get a lot out of the meaningful conversations you have with people who matter to you. The way that you help yourself when it comes to ‘moving on’ is by opening up to people that you trust and being vulnerable enough to ask for help when you feel overwhelmed by your emotions. Your conversations with loved ones always make you feel a lot better and a lot stronger.

Leo

(July 23rd to August 22nd)

You survive your broken heart by learning to let go of your desperate need for control. 

Your sense of creativity and your strong work ethic are wonderful qualities about you, but sometimes, when these traits go a little too far, you can become somewhat controlling and overbearing. Because you are really talented at taking things into your own hands and making things happen, you really start to heal when you learn to take your desire for control and instead channel that energy towards taking care of yourself. Although it takes time, your heart starts to put itself back together when you stop trying to figure out what went wrong or how you could have changed it, and instead focus on how you can take care of yourself and how you can grow from this.

Virgo

(August 23rd to September 22nd)

You survive your broken heart by learning how to handle your thoughts, instead of letting your thoughts handle you. 

Your brain is your best friend and your worst enemy. It is the reason why you are so intelligent, analytical, and perceptive – but it is also the reason why you sometimes feel like you’re drowning in your own fears and worries and ‘what if’s.’ The hardest part of breakups for you is often the incessant, negative thoughts that creep up: what if they were the one and I blew it? what if I never find anyone as good as them? what if people judge me for being single? what if I end up alone for the rest of my life? The way you start to feel like yourself again is by learning to acknowledge the thoughts, let the fears and worries wash over you, and then remember that when it comes to your brain, you are ultimately the one in control. Learning to be conscious of – and in control of – your thoughts doesn’t happen in a day, but through constant efforts towards logical and mindful thinking, you allow yourself to feel more like ‘you’ again over time.

Libra

(September 23rd to October 22nd)

You survive your broken heart by letting yourself get to an emotionally deeper level with your loved ones. 

You’ve never struggled with loneliness – at any given point you’re surrounded by a million friends and talking to a million different people. But sometimes, your easygoing and sociable nature actually makes it harder for you to go to that next level with people. And when you’re going through a breakup, that’s exactly what you need to do – to spend time being around and talking to the people that let you get to a vulnerable place and address all the heavy and ugly things you’re going through. The way that you heal your heart from a breakup is by seeking out the people who truly love you for you and by talking it out, slowly but surely, and remembering that as hard as it is, you will get through this, because you’re never alone.

Scorpio

(October 23rd to November 22nd)

You survive your broken heart by focusing on your own happiness instead of letting yourself obsess over how your ex is doing. 

Your passion and your magnetism are some of your best qualities, but they can also lead you towards self-sabotage, especially when it comes to relationships and breakups. Instead of giving yourself space to heal, you tend to dig even deeper into your own wounds and force yourself to rehash all the hardest and most heartbreaking parts of the breakup. The way you start to move on from the person who crushed you is by ignoring your surface level desires (stalking their Instagram, texting them that you miss them, etc) and instead doing things that make you feel better in the long-term, like exercising, spending time with friends, and finding ways to work on yourself.

Sagittarius

(November 23rd to December 21st)

You survive your broken heart by admitting to yourself that it’s okay not to be happy 24/7. 

Most people think of you as the carefree, fun-loving, optimistic one. Those are wonderful qualities to be associated with, but it can be really difficult when you’re going through a breakup with someone. Because you think the happy-go-lucky attitude is what is constantly expected of you, you have a difficult time letting your guard down and being open when you’re having a rough go of it. So the way that you truly start to move on is when you admit to yourself that you’re allowed to be sad sometimes, and when you give yourself the time, space, and help that you need to deal with your own grief.

Capricorn

(December 22nd to January 20th)

You survive your broken heart by indulging your own ambitions, without letting your sense of practicality get the best of you. 

Your desire for growth and success are surprisingly helpful when you’re brokenhearted, because it allows you to channel a lot of your energy into your work, your short-term and long-term goals, and current projects you are working on both in your career and in your personal life. But you only truly move on when you allow yourself to have a healthy dose of this while still accepting the fact that you are sad and grieving and that no amount of logic and practicality can sure you of that – because it just takes time.

Aquarius

(January 21st to February 18th)

You survive your broken heart by fully leaning into the pain. 

Your sense of self-preservation is strong, but it can also get you in trouble when your instinct is to simply detach and disconnect from what you’re feeling, especially in the middle of a breakup. Rather than going your typical route of being unemotional and aloof (which only works short-term, if at all), you heal a lot faster from a breakup when you fully acknowledge and respond to what you’re going through, letting yourself feel the pain and swim through it instead of trying to climb over it.

Pisces

(February 19th to March 20th)

You survive your broken heart by tackling your grief head-on instead of just hoping for the best. 

There’s nothing wrong with having your head in the clouds – to a point. An optimistic and idealistic look on life can be refreshing and needed, when it’s at a healthy dose. But the way that you truly grow and ‘come back’ from heartache is from looking your breakup in the face and actively doing things that challenge you, take your mind off the other person, get you moving, and get you meeting new people. You end up healing a lot faster when you’re saying ‘yes’ to social invitations and signing up for fun events and exploring hobbies outside of work than you do when you just lay in your own misery and expect things to just ‘heal on their own.’

(Kim Quindlen)

Aries (March 21st – April 19th)

“Let’s try something we’ve never done before.”

Taurus (April 20th – May 20th)

“I feel so taken care of by you.”

Gemini (May 21st – June 20th)

“I love every piece of you.”

Cancer (June 21st – July 22nd)

“How about I give you a massage tonight?”

Leo (July 23rd – August 22nd)

“Everyone who meets you falls in love with you. It’s kind of amazing to witness.”

Virgo (August 23rd – September 22nd)

“I feel like just staying in this weekend and reading. You cool with that?”

Libra (September 23rd – October 22nd)

“I’m always on your team.”

Scorpio (October 23rd – November 21st)

“Wanna get drunk and naked and watch Planet Earth together?”

Sagittarius (November 22nd – December 21st )

“I get excited just thinking about you.”

Capricorn: (December 22nd – January 19th)

“Anything I can do to relieve some of your stress?”

Aquarius: (January 20th – February 18th)

“Let’s get weird.”

Pisces (February 19th – March 20th)

“I’ve got a concert ticket with your name on it.”

(Kris Miller)

1. Be fully aware that it takes a lot of work to love them.

Know up front that it’s going to be a bloody battle to win the heart of someone who’s born under the Gemini sign. They are hard to read because of their spontaneous personalities. They have bags full of tricks that never fail to surprise anyone who comes near them. Because of the twin symbol of Gemini, it can be difficult to predict which side of them you’re supposed to impress at a given time.

2. Find the best way to earn their trust.

They don’t give their trust so easily. You need to show them and prove to them why they should put their hearts in your hands. One of the dark sides of Geminis is that they tend to be paranoid. They quickly get suspicious and perform little investigations inside their heads. Once you do something that makes them feel doubtful, there’s a low chance that they’re going to get along well with you.

3. Prepare interesting topics to talk about with them.

You are dealing with someone whose thirst for knowledge is never-ending. If you’re planning to make them like you right off the bat, be sure to always say something sensible, something that they can learn from you, something that’s going to spark their curiosities. Geminis love to have intellectual and interesting conversations. The secret to a Gemini’s heart is through his or her mind.

4. Ask them on an outdoorsy date.

You don’t have to worry about asking them for a date as long as it involves adventure. Geminis are always excited for thrills. They prefer to go outside most of the time. They like to find connections with the nature and explore new places. The easiest way for them to open themselves is when they’re carefree.

5. Impress them with your creative skills.

In case you didn’t know, Geminis are multi-talented. They are jacks-of-all-trades. They might not master everything, but they are impressively good with a lot of things. They easily get attracted to someone who has great creative skills because they’re intrigued to learn about their talents. If you want them to fall in love with you, figure out a way on how you can impress them with your creative abilities.

6. Do not bore them.

This is a rule of a thumb. Never ever bore them or they’ll walk away from you. Step up your game. Do something different, talk something fresh and new, surprise them with something they haven’t encountered before. Make them laugh. Convince them you’re witty. Blow their minds with fun facts. Just don’t do something that will trigger their impatience because the next thing you know, they’re on the go and ready to move on.

7. Learn how to calm them down.

Geminis are prone to anxieties. They badly need someone who can calm them down, someone who has the ability to make their worries go away with only one look. They don’t need someone who’s going to add more issues in their already busy minds. What they want is peace. And if you can help them and remind them to take their time in everything that they do, it’s going to give you plus points in earning their hearts.

8. Never purposely attack their feelings.

It’s true that Geminis are forgiving. But please be informed that they never forget. If you’re going to mess up with them, they can still give you a second chance, they can still stand having you around, but things will never be the same. There will be no more trust, no more opening up, no more meaningful relationships. Smiles will be forced, conversations will be short, hanging out will be impossible, and everything will just be causal.

9. Surprise them.

Whether it’s a birthday surprise or simply an unplanned date, Geminis are going to greatly appreciate it. Being surprised is one thing that they secretly love. They don’t like to ask for something special, but in the back of their minds, they’re wishing for you to plan a surprise when they’re about to celebrate a remarkable milestone in their lives. They get butterflies in their stomach knowing someone remembers an important date in their calendars. If you want to make an impact to someone who’s born under the Gemini sign, execute an unsuspicious, successful surprise for them.

10. Be loyal to them.

This is something that’s easier said than done sometimes, but try your best to prove to them that they’re your one and only. Geminis often times want reassurance. They know words can be deceiving so they choose to judge someone based on their actions of showing them their loyalties. Geminis love to think long-term. They want to put themselves in situations that they know they can prosper and grow. Geminis aren’t looking for someone who’s only interested in temporary, casual relationship. Rather, Geminis are looking for someone who’s willing to stay, and doesn’t leave. 

(via Thought Catalog)

Aries

(March 21st to April 19th)

You’re easily infatuated but it’s a lot harder for you to actually stay in love with someone. Rather than looking for someone you know could make you happy long-term, you always go after the mysterious, intoxicating heartbreaker.

Taurus

(April 20th to May 21st)

You have an exact and rigid idea in your mind of what a relationship is supposed to be, and if any aspect of your reality strays from that expectation, you run in the opposite direction.

Gemini

(May 22nd to June 21st)

You have no problem sharing the fun-loving and exciting side of yourself with others, but when it comes to reaching a deeper, more emotionally intimate level, you clam up faster than anyone.

Cancer

(June 22nd to July 22nd)

Because your heart is so open, you often fall for people who are wrong for you, and anytime you experience heartbreak or rejection, you have a hard time coming back from it.

Leo

(July 23rd to August 22nd)

In order to feel secure, you’re convinced that you need to be in control of everything, so being in a relationship in which you can’t control every single factor and environment can often wreak havoc on your love life.

Virgo

(August 23rd to September 22nd)

Whether you realize it or not, you tend to obsess over the idea of the perfect partner, while forgetting that there is no such thing as a perfect human being. The thing that’s getting you into trouble is believing that whoever you date must meet every requirement on your list, and that if one thing is missing, it must mean that the relationship is hopeless.

Libra

(September 23rd to October 22nd)

Your desire for freedom and independence can sometimes make people think you’re disinterested in them, so it’s important for you to explain that just because you love to be free and adventurous, it doesn’t mean you don’t also want a partner.

Scorpio

(October 23rd to November 22nd)

Your romantic feelings and your desire to connect with someone can be a little intense at first. When a relationship settles into a comfortable rhythm it’s a great way to maintain passion, but if you don’t know how to initially reign in your strong feelings, they can be a bit overwhelming to whomever you’re dating.

Sagittarius

(November 23rd to December 21st)

You love to be the one to call first, initiate first, etc, but you’re also obsessed with the chase – which can be a little confusing to someone who feels like one minute they’re supposed to enjoy being courted and another minute they should be playing hard to get.

Capricorn

(December 22nd to January 20th)

You have an extremely fun and playful side to you, but because you’re also so practical and logical, it can take you a long time to trust someone enough to open up to them.

Aquarius

(January 21st to February 18th)

You think that being detached and unemotional means you’re playing it safe, when in reality it’s just preventing you from an infinite number of wonderful relationships you could have had if you were willing to be vulnerable.

Pisces

(February 19th to March 20th)

Your idea of love can be a bit idealistic, and sometimes you’re so passionate and excited about falling in love that you settle for someone who’s wrong for you – simply because you’re so enamored by the possibility of potentially finding ‘the one.’

(via Thought Catalog)