Aries
(March 21st to April 19th)
You survive your broken heart by re-remembering how much you enjoy your own company.
You’ve never struggled to fall in love – it’s always been something very exciting and invigorating and non-intimidating to you. The hard part for you was always the moment when the relationship progressed from ‘thrilling and new’ to ‘steady and routine-like.’ Although this is a normal part of relationships, it’s still something you have a hard time with – you often start to miss your independence and autonomy. So, the way that you heal after a breakup is relearning how much joy you get from being by yourself. Even though you miss your partner a lot in the beginning, you’re able to heal by remembering how much you like to spend time exploring and trying new things on your own.
Taurus
(April 20th to May 21st)
You survive your broken heart by reviving a lot of your other relationships.
One of your best qualities is your strong sense of love, warmth, and compassion for others. And while you are still a loyal friend and family member during your relationships, your attention does start to gravitate a lot more towards your partner. So when you’re in the middle of a bad breakup, you find a lot of strength and healing from rejuvenating some of your other relationships – taking a lengthy visit home, organizing happy hours and dinners with pals, taking vacations with your closest friends, staying in better touch with people you care about, etc. It doesn’t completely ‘fix’ you, but putting a lot of effort into your friendships and family relationships gives you a lot of replenishing energy on your tough days.
Gemini
(May 22nd to June 21st)
You survive your broken heart by finding joy in learning to be on your own again.
One of your biggest struggles in relationships is your tendency to lean a little too much on your significant other when it comes to making big life decisions. You’re a bit of a waverer, in terms of your career and your life goals and where you see yourself in five or ten years. So the nice thing about being back on your own again is that you gain back a sense of self-sufficiency and focus, without losing your spirit or your lively temperament. Although it doesn’t fully soothe the sadness you feel, your blossoming sense of self-reliance is a welcome return that definitely softens the blow of your broken heart.
Cancer
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
You survive your broken heart by leaning on people you trust and asking for help to find closure.
You have a tendency to cling on to things even after they are over, and learning how to ‘let go’ is a task that you are always trying to improve on. But you also have a very open and loving heart, and you always get a lot out of the meaningful conversations you have with people who matter to you. The way that you help yourself when it comes to ‘moving on’ is by opening up to people that you trust and being vulnerable enough to ask for help when you feel overwhelmed by your emotions. Your conversations with loved ones always make you feel a lot better and a lot stronger.
Leo
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
You survive your broken heart by learning to let go of your desperate need for control.
Your sense of creativity and your strong work ethic are wonderful qualities about you, but sometimes, when these traits go a little too far, you can become somewhat controlling and overbearing. Because you are really talented at taking things into your own hands and making things happen, you really start to heal when you learn to take your desire for control and instead channel that energy towards taking care of yourself. Although it takes time, your heart starts to put itself back together when you stop trying to figure out what went wrong or how you could have changed it, and instead focus on how you can take care of yourself and how you can grow from this.
Virgo
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
You survive your broken heart by learning how to handle your thoughts, instead of letting your thoughts handle you.
Your brain is your best friend and your worst enemy. It is the reason why you are so intelligent, analytical, and perceptive – but it is also the reason why you sometimes feel like you’re drowning in your own fears and worries and ‘what if’s.’ The hardest part of breakups for you is often the incessant, negative thoughts that creep up: what if they were the one and I blew it? what if I never find anyone as good as them? what if people judge me for being single? what if I end up alone for the rest of my life? The way you start to feel like yourself again is by learning to acknowledge the thoughts, let the fears and worries wash over you, and then remember that when it comes to your brain, you are ultimately the one in control. Learning to be conscious of – and in control of – your thoughts doesn’t happen in a day, but through constant efforts towards logical and mindful thinking, you allow yourself to feel more like ‘you’ again over time.
Libra
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
You survive your broken heart by letting yourself get to an emotionally deeper level with your loved ones.
You’ve never struggled with loneliness – at any given point you’re surrounded by a million friends and talking to a million different people. But sometimes, your easygoing and sociable nature actually makes it harder for you to go to that next level with people. And when you’re going through a breakup, that’s exactly what you need to do – to spend time being around and talking to the people that let you get to a vulnerable place and address all the heavy and ugly things you’re going through. The way that you heal your heart from a breakup is by seeking out the people who truly love you for you and by talking it out, slowly but surely, and remembering that as hard as it is, you will get through this, because you’re never alone.
Scorpio
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
You survive your broken heart by focusing on your own happiness instead of letting yourself obsess over how your ex is doing.
Your passion and your magnetism are some of your best qualities, but they can also lead you towards self-sabotage, especially when it comes to relationships and breakups. Instead of giving yourself space to heal, you tend to dig even deeper into your own wounds and force yourself to rehash all the hardest and most heartbreaking parts of the breakup. The way you start to move on from the person who crushed you is by ignoring your surface level desires (stalking their Instagram, texting them that you miss them, etc) and instead doing things that make you feel better in the long-term, like exercising, spending time with friends, and finding ways to work on yourself.
Sagittarius
(November 23rd to December 21st)
You survive your broken heart by admitting to yourself that it’s okay not to be happy 24/7.
Most people think of you as the carefree, fun-loving, optimistic one. Those are wonderful qualities to be associated with, but it can be really difficult when you’re going through a breakup with someone. Because you think the happy-go-lucky attitude is what is constantly expected of you, you have a difficult time letting your guard down and being open when you’re having a rough go of it. So the way that you truly start to move on is when you admit to yourself that you’re allowed to be sad sometimes, and when you give yourself the time, space, and help that you need to deal with your own grief.
Capricorn
(December 22nd to January 20th)
You survive your broken heart by indulging your own ambitions, without letting your sense of practicality get the best of you.
Your desire for growth and success are surprisingly helpful when you’re brokenhearted, because it allows you to channel a lot of your energy into your work, your short-term and long-term goals, and current projects you are working on both in your career and in your personal life. But you only truly move on when you allow yourself to have a healthy dose of this while still accepting the fact that you are sad and grieving and that no amount of logic and practicality can sure you of that – because it just takes time.
Aquarius
(January 21st to February 18th)
You survive your broken heart by fully leaning into the pain.
Your sense of self-preservation is strong, but it can also get you in trouble when your instinct is to simply detach and disconnect from what you’re feeling, especially in the middle of a breakup. Rather than going your typical route of being unemotional and aloof (which only works short-term, if at all), you heal a lot faster from a breakup when you fully acknowledge and respond to what you’re going through, letting yourself feel the pain and swim through it instead of trying to climb over it.
Pisces
(February 19th to March 20th)
You survive your broken heart by tackling your grief head-on instead of just hoping for the best.
There’s nothing wrong with having your head in the clouds – to a point. An optimistic and idealistic look on life can be refreshing and needed, when it’s at a healthy dose. But the way that you truly grow and ‘come back’ from heartache is from looking your breakup in the face and actively doing things that challenge you, take your mind off the other person, get you moving, and get you meeting new people. You end up healing a lot faster when you’re saying ‘yes’ to social invitations and signing up for fun events and exploring hobbies outside of work than you do when you just lay in your own misery and expect things to just ‘heal on their own.’
(Kim Quindlen)
